What to text her

The moments where conversations die

Every one of these is a real point where a thread stalls. What is actually happening, the message that moves it forward, and the ones that end it.

First messages

Tinder openers that get a reply.

A new match, an empty chat, and the first line is yours.

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First messages

She left you on read. Here's what to text.

She's seen your message and hasn't answered for a day or more.

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First messages

She stopped replying mid-conversation.

It was going fine, then nothing, and your message was the last one.

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First messages

She opened with "hey". Now what.

One word, no hook, and the whole conversation is yours to make.

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First messages

She keeps replying "lol" and "ok".

Every message you send comes back as three characters.

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First messages

She asked for your Instagram.

Early, unprompted, before you've really spoken.

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Getting to know her

She brought up her ex.

He came up in conversation and now you have to say something.

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Getting to know her

"So what are you looking for?"

Asked directly, usually earlier than you expected.

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Asking her out

You asked her out. She said "maybe".

Not a no, not a yes, and no date in it.

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Asking her out

She said she's busy that week.

You proposed something and got a calendar instead of an answer.

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Asking her out

She cancelled, an hour before.

Plans were set and the message came in just before you left.

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Asking her out

Time to get her number. Here's how to ask.

The conversation is working and the app is now the thing in the way.

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Asking her out

She texted "I had a great time." Here's what to send.

The date went well and she said so first. Now the reply.

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Toward the date

Time to take this off the app.

The thread is working and the app is starting to feel like the wrong room for it.

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